Writing dating emails

Emails that will get you noticed

1. Write a clever subject line.

He’ll be more likely to open your email if you write something fun, smart, or unusual in your subject line. Men who get a lot of emails may not open most of them. Make him curious enough to want to open yours. Your subject line is your first impression. Make it pop. Here are some possibilities: “From a fellow foodie,” “Seeking co-author,” “Your avocations intrigue me,” “Bowling on a first date.” All of these subject lines are in response to something in the man’s profile. Pick something that stood out for you and use it as a way to capture his attention.

2. Make it personal.

For the body of the email, once again, pick out specific elements from his profile that got your attention and include them. For example, if he writes that he’s energetic and optimistic and that’s important to you, say so. Captivated by his smile? Let him know how he stood out from the crowd.

3. Ask a question.

If you include a question at the end of your email, he’ll be more likely to respond.

4. Tell them that any response is welcomed.

This way, even if he’s not interested, (s)he’s more likely to give you an answer. Too many people have lost the art of common courtesy. If someone takes the time to write you a thoughtful email, please answer him or her.

5. Don’t sound desperate.

Casual is a good rule of thumb for your first email. If you come on too strong, he might label you as needy and not respond. This isn’t a game show. You are an adventurer out in the wilds of online dating, and you’re trying to figure out if you’re compatible or not. You are as much the chooser as he is the picker. Don’t lose sight of that.